You raise some very interesting and valid points. I'm happy to let her hold onto my card, but from now on, I am going to insist on having it when I want it, and through this I will be able to spend as and when I like.
Part of the reason she does this is because both my parents believe I should be saving for other things, such as a car - I will be driving at the end of the year, 17 in December.
I'm not trying to defend her - I think it's just hard for her to accept I'm growing up, though at the same time, she doesn't exactly want me to retain a "childish" hobby. She wants to keep me somewhere in between, and I intend to talk to her about it.
See now, I already drink and have an interest in women
However, I am sensible about it - I don't binge drink, and she doesn't mind that I do drink. However, whilst she holds my bank card, she maintains a certain degree of control over me - I will probably raise this issue with my dad, as he is the fair one, and whilst strict, will hear me out, and undoubtedly take my side if I can present a good argument.
Tom